Kumar Bahukhandi
That’s when friends become too close…so many times I’ve seen and heard about friends actually causing major problems in a relationship. Most of the time you talk your problems with your close friends or mate even before your other half is even aware of the problem. And the friends say “You need to do this”, or “You can’t stay in this relationship”, or any number of statements. Worst part is- they can suggest you a person also that you are perfact match with him/her . While most are well-meaning–is it really fair to give them the first option when it comes to working out problems in a relationship? or are they mature enough to tell you find a way out to resolve your problem instead recommanding you a friend ?
Don’t get me wrong–friends can be wonderful, too, but I think there has to be a line drawn somewhere that you don’t cross with them. Do they really need to know the intimate details of your relationship with your lover and husband or wife? Of course not–that should be kept private–it’s no one else’s business.
If you have a problem in your relationship or marriage –shouldn’t it be resolved from within, instead of drawing an outsider into the mix? And friends are outsiders; no matter how close you are to them…they don’t know your lover or spouse as well as you do.
When you’re single and uncommitted, it’s good to have friends to reveal in, and enjoy being with. Tow can have friends before you were committed and spent a lot of time with them. But once you are committed to some one , your friends become secondary . You may quit seeing and talking to them, but you gradually spent less and less time with them. You may remain on good terms with them all, but they just aren’t part of your daily lives anymore. Obviously, your way isn’t for everyone, you realize that.
And believe me it works for you –you don’t need anyone else other than each other, and your children. You will not like anyone else being actively involved in our everyday lives…you were, and still are, each other’s best friend. Only the two of you know about the private matters of your relationship –it’s your business, and only yours.
You do each can have many good friends you may share good times and bad even your friends claim that they know you better then you yourself but a lines are drawn with them, as to what they are suppose to talk and they should also realize if they really want to be close and good friends.
